Ok but what's the best settings to use operating out of a laptop wirelessly?
It depends on MANY details which you have NOT presented to us... and I suspect you are not familiar with, or have (like WiFi RF frequency utilization rates, other WiFi client spectrum usage, etc)
Seriously: There is no good answer to your question, as you are asking the wrong thing.
With WiFi, Stream settings (primarily bitrate) Settings that may work one day may not work the next time. So... it depends. That's why, if you want reliable, consistent, watchable livestream, in a HoW setting especially if there are other network clients, we say not use to WiFi.
Then, you have ignored the pinned post regarding posting an OBS session log. So we have NO details on your laptop, and whether it is up to the task of real-time video encoding, without thermal throttling, or not.
So, you could be fine at 1080p30 5->7K bitrate, or not. no way for any of us to know.
You are looking for what you think is an easy answer/direction. But it isn't easy, to do properly. Until you understand that, you are likely to remain frustrated. If doing this right isn't something you wish to do, then I'd start with something low 720p30 3k bitrate and see if that is stable. Do real-time hardware resource monitoring on your laptop to make sure not overloading it. Make sure operating system is optimized for this use case [this can be equally tricky/sophisticated to get right. Ok go for an over-powered system if you have the budget, and not worry as much about it]. And be prepared for what appears to be random change (it won't be random, but whole other story) where livestream worked for weeks/months, and then stops working.